Stop Assuming Ishhh
- Peach Editorial
- 20 hours ago
- 4 min read
By Peach Ent Editorial
Everybody got a story about somebody… and most of the time it ain’t even true.
On the Peach Ent livestream, the conversation got real about something we all see happening every day. People assuming ish about other people’s lives without knowing the full story.
Somebody sees one post, one outfit, one relationship status change, and suddenly they think they know your finances, your relationship, your sexuality, your character, and your entire life plan.
But let’s be honest.
Most people don’t know a damn thing.
Social Media Got Everybody Playing Detective
These days everybody thinks they’re a life investigator. People see a photo and start building a whole narrative in their head.
“She got a new car… she must be scamming.”
“He always posting money… he must be selling something.”
“They broke up… somebody cheated.”
“She single at 40… something must be wrong with her.”
Whole stories built off zero facts.
And statistics actually show this is happening a lot more than we think.
According to Pew Research Center, 64% of Americans say social media makes people form false assumptions about other people’s lives because we’re only seeing highlights, not reality.
Instagram ain’t life.
Twitter ain’t truth.
And a Facebook post definitely ain’t the whole story.
But people treat it like evidence.
Melanated Folks Know
Inside melanated communities, assumptions run wild. People constantly trying to read each other without actually talking to each other.
If somebody dressing nice, folks say they doing something strange for some change.
If somebody quiet, they must be fake.
If somebody confident, they must be arrogant.
If somebody LGBTQ+, people start assuming their whole lifestyle and family situation.
B@tch Bye! None of those assumptions is automatically true.
In fact, a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that over 70% of first impressions people make about strangers are completely inaccurate once they actually get to know them.
That means most of the time when people think they “peeped the vibe”…
they wrong.
Assumptions Destroy Relationships
This part of the livestream hit different.
A lot of relationship drama isn’t even about cheating or money.
It’s about people assuming things instead of communicating.
Somebody didn’t text back fast enough.
Somebody looked at a message and didn’t respond.
Somebody didn’t post their partner online.
Now suddenly it’s:
“You hiding something.”
“You acting funny.”
“You moving weird.”
Whole arguments based on made-up stories in somebody’s head.
According to the American Psychological Association, 69% of relationship conflicts start from misunderstandings and incorrect assumptions about someone’s intentions.
Not cheating.
Not money.
Miscommunication.
People literally ending relationships over things that were never real to begin with.
Social Media Made It Even Worse
Back in the day if you wanted to know something, you actually had to ask somebody.
Now people just zoom in on a picture and start analyzing it like it’s a crime scene.
Who liked the post.
Who didn’t like it.
Who followed who.
Who unfollowed somebody.
Whole conspiracy theories built from Instagram activity.
A University of Kansas study found that people who spend more than three hours a day on social media are significantly more likely to misinterpret other people’s behavior and intentions.
Basically, the more you online watching people…
the more likely you are to misunderstand them.
The Real Damage Behind Assumptions
A lot of people laugh about gossip and assumptions, but that stuff actually affects people mentally.
Constant judgment and misunderstanding can create stress, anxiety, and isolation.
According to the American Psychological Association, social rejection and negative assumptions about someone’s identity or character are major contributors to depression.
For LGBTQ+ people in melanated communities, the pressure can be even heavier.
The Trevor Project reports that 45% of LGBTQ+ youth seriously considered suicide in the past year, with feeling misunderstood and judged being one of the biggest reasons.
So what feels like casual gossip to one person can feel like constant attack to someone else.
Why People Love Assuming
Let’s keep it real.
People assume because it’s easier than thinking deeper.
Psychologists say people jump to conclusions for a few reasons:
First, our brains hate not knowing things. When information is missing, we fill in the blanks ourselves.
Second, people look for things that confirm what they already believe. If somebody already thinks a certain way about you, they’ll twist anything you do to fit that narrative.
And third, sometimes assumptions protect people’s ego. It’s easier to say somebody else is the problem than to question your own thinking.
In other words…
Assumptions are just mental shortcuts.
But shortcuts usually lead you to the wrong destination.
Ask Questions Instead of Creating Stories
One of the biggest gems from the Peach Ent livestream was simple:
Ask people.
Crazy concept, right?
Instead of assuming somebody’s intentions, ask them.
Instead of believing rumors, talk to the person involved.
Instead of creating a whole movie in your head, gather real information.
Communication solves problems that assumptions create.
Sometimes You Just Need to Mind Your Business
Another thing people forget is that not everything needs your opinion.
Some situations don’t involve you.
Some people’s life choices ain’t your responsibility to understand.
Sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is just accept that you don’t know the full story and keep it moving.
Not every breakup needs commentary.
Not every lifestyle needs explanation.
And not every rumor deserves attention.
Final Word from Peach Ent
The reality is everybody is out here navigating life the best way they know how.
People growing.
People healing.
People figuring things out day by day.
So the next time you feel yourself creating a whole storyline about somebody based on a small piece of information…
Pause for a second.
Because chances are…
you assuming ishhh.
And assumptions have a funny way of making people look foolish when the truth finally shows up.
Take a look at the Conversation! Below is the "Stop Assuming Ishhh" episode that aired on Sunday, January 18, 2026, on the Check In around 7:30pmish. Let me know your thoughts in the comments section. Watch the Check In: Peach Edition on Fridays at around 8 pm and The Check In show, hosted by Peach and Auntie Toya, at approximately 7:30 pmish on Sundays. Enjoy the video!
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